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I am 65 years old. My husband and I have been married for almost 43 years*

Posted by womentc in Painful Sex (Dyspareunia) 10 Apr 2014

I am 65 years old. My husband and I have been married for almost 43 years. We had a loving sexual relationship for most of those years. However, about 14 years ago I had a hysterectomy, which completely changed my life.

Sexual intercourse became more and more painful as time went on. Positions that used to give us much pleasure were too uncomfortable to contemplate. I began to lose interest in sex.

Then started the rounds of doctor visits. One doctor said there is a lot of scar tissue that causes the pain. Therefore, just “go easy” and that should help. It didn’t.

Another doctor said the vaginal opening had to be stretched. He suggested inserting a tampon the first day, 2 the second day, etc., etc.

Just the thought of it made me uncomfortable.

The last doctor I saw suggested I use Estrogen. I was not happy with this solution for 2 reasons – I already used it before with no help and I also developed pre-cancerous breast lumps.

Of course, all this led to marital problems at home. My husband tried to be understanding, but I guess it was difficult for him to fully understand what I was feeling both emotionally and physically.

I finally was put in touch with Ross and Ditza. It took 2 sessions with them to discover what the problem was and how to get around it.

Using a lubricant is fine, but it must be done correctly for it to work. Thank goodness for plungers that get the lubricant up into the vaginal area.

My husband and I are happy but angry that it took so many years to solve a problem that was really easy to solve.

We’re trying now to regain some of the lost years and put aside the problems that were caused in our marriage. It will take some doing, but at least when we want to make love we don’t have to worry about a painful situation.

To Ditza and Ross – thank you. D.O.