Nab’s Story*
(This article was sent to us by Nabs who initially posted it on a vaginismus support website in October 2007)
I haven’t been here in almost a year. The last time I was in here, I was posting from a hotel room in New York and was about to get treatment for Vaginismus. I posted a few weeks after that telling the group I was cured of Vaginismus.
My husband and I have been married for almost eight years now. Last year was the breaking point for us. I either needed to get serious help for what seemed to be the worst problem of my life or our marriage was over.
Since our marriage began in March of 2000 I tried EVERYTHING, I am not one for avoiding a challenge. I tried vaginismus hypnosis tapes, dilators of all brands, makes and models, Physical Therapists, Psychologist, Christian Counseling, Marriage Counseling,…etc. I basically really did try it all in five years, nothing worked. I feared sex, penetration and needed to have control at all times. I come from a very religious Catholic background.
I had looked into going to the Women’s Therapy Center the second year of my marriage but heard some negative comments about the center in this forum and decided not to go because of those reasons. My fear was winning the battle and hearing some negative comments is all I needed to get out of going.
Today, I am 36, vaginismus-free, and my husband and I can move forward with our lives focusing on other matters such as having a family and our long future together.
I wish I could have been able to share that with him when I was 32 instead of at the age of 36 but my fear won at that time in my life. My vaginismus is behind me and I have the Women’s Therapy Center in New York to thank for it. I know that my life would be a lot different right now if it wasn’t for those ladies.
Some women with vaginismus can conquer vaginismus on their own but some cannot like I was not able to for FIVE YEARS. If you feel that you cannot do this with dilators alone, I urge you not to wait any longer and seek more help*.
* Results may vary from person to person
