Once cured, I was able to observe my genitals and decide how I wanted them to look like aesthetically*

Once cured, I was able to observe my genitals and decide how I wanted them to look aesthetically. I immediately made an appointment and I decided to have an extreme Brazilian wax, which is what they call it at the salon I went to. It was so liberating to make this choice and go through with it anxiety-free.

I am 25 years old and have recently been cured of vaginismus.

Wow, what does that mean for me exactly? I have now been able to use tampons with ease and regularity during my period; I have been able to have sex with my loving boyfriend who supported me throughout my entire treatment; and most importantly, I was able to have a complete pelvic exam at the gynecologist.

These things are what every woman hopes to accomplish after their treatment at the Women’s Therapy Center but, since I have finished, I have discovered some other things about my body and being a woman that may not be so obvious to the vaginismus patient:

• I realized that I am in complete control of my genitals. The first thing that I decided was that when I went to the gynecologist I would not only have a pap smear but I would have a culture done to test for other sexually transmitted diseases/infections. This is something I was never able to do and I always wondered about. Now I would be able to have that peace of mind.
• The second step was really observing my genitals and deciding what I wanted them to look like aesthetically. I always thought about a bikini wax and had heard of the recent trend to have a Brazilian bikini wax, but could never fathom actually going through with one. I had heard of the usual pain and of being uncomfortable, but, for me, vaginismus would rear its ugly head when I would think about having a stranger touch me “down there” and having to contort my body into all of these strange positions to remove hair from crevices I didn’t even know I had. It wasn’t a sexual thing for me really; it was more of a personal preference, something I didn’t want to have to keep up with in the summer as I used to do in the past. Upon reaching a cure, I immediately made an appointment and I decided to have an extreme Brazilian wax, which is what they call it at the salon I went to. It was so liberating to make this choice and go through with it anxiety-free.

Since the demographic of vaginismus patients and their ages vary so greatly, some may think this is a petty thing to worry about, but as a woman in my mid 20’s it was something I focused on, and it was very important to me. Summer is in full swing and I am loving life. I am as healthy as I can be according to my gynecologist, my boyfriend and I are having a lot of fun and getting to know each other on a more intimate level, and now my beach trips are not halted by having to use a sanitary napkin and wear shorts over my bathing suit. I am able to wear the skimpiest of bikinis if I want and nobody has to know that I am wearing a tampon and have a freshly waxed vagina!!

I have often told Ditza and Ross how much my life has changed due to the fact that they cured my vaginismus, and now I want to be able to share my experiences with other women.

Take control and don’t feel alone. You will be amazed!!*

S.

July 2008

* Results may vary from person to person