“I cannot use public bathrooms… I am worried about making voiding sounds… What will the woman in the next stall think?… I must hold it in the whole day until I get home… Does that explain my pain and discomfort? And when I get home, I sometime cannot relax to void, which is another problem I now have…”
It is a common problem for many women, which starts with embarrassment and with ‘forgetting’ that everyone does the same thing in the bathroom, and often ends with conditionally-tight pelvic floor muscles that cannot be released for voiding even in the comfort and privacy of one’s home bathroom.
- Try not to worry about what the others will think
- If at work, try to use the bathroom when nobody else is there
- If possible, run the sink while going to the bathroom so muffle some of the sound
- As you are about to void, take a relaxing breath and ‘tell’ your bottom to relax with it so that voiding can begin
- Take necessary measures to address the resulting constipation
- Seek professional help: pelvic floor physical therapy, psychotherapy, medical consult