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Sonogram

03 Nov 2009 Posted by womentc in Vaginismus Blog

Ultrasound is a cyclic sound pressure at average frequency of 20 kHz, above the human's hearing ability. Gynecologic sonogram works like a sonar in a submarine: it sends a beam out, and if the beam encounters a solid object (i.e. another submarine, a rock, a cyst,...

About stirrups

14 Sep 2009 Posted by womentc in Vaginismus Blog

During gynecologic exam, the woman is asked to slide down to the edge of the examination table for best visualization of the area and to accommodate the use of the speculum.  This position is medically known as the dorsal lithotomy position. Stirrups were invented by Bert...

Vaginismus, returns?

10 Sep 2009 Posted by womentc in Vaginismus Blog

Vaginismus is a common condition that affects women worldwide regardless of their culture, religion, education, sexual orientation, or family status.  Vaginismus is a somatic (body-mind) reaction to fear/apprehension of vaginal penetration.  It happens instantaneously and involuntarily. Women with vaginismus tend to suffer in silence and shame,...

Fingering?

28 Jul 2009 Posted by womentc in Vaginismus Blog

When women are being asked if they masturbate, they typically associate it with their ability/desire for 'finger in vagina.' The truth: female masturbation is about clitoral stimulation regardless of vaginal action.  In other words, inasmuch as vaginal penetration may enhance the arousal, it is not mandatory...

Anxious gyno exam

26 Jun 2009 Posted by womentc in Vaginismus Blog

The reflexive reaction during gynecologic exam is to tighten up the pelvic floor (PC muscles) as the clinician is about to 'go in.' The physical fact is that the more you tighten up, the more discomfort you will feel. So, what is the trick?  Minimizing this reflexive...

Vaginal ‘fullness’

15 Jun 2009 Posted by womentc in Vaginismus Blog

Women do not so much care about the length of what goes into the vagina (penis, dilator, sexual toys) because it will only fit as deep as her vagina allows. However, the physical feeling that does matter to a woman is that of girth (width) expansion. ...

Guiding the penis?

27 May 2009 Posted by womentc in Vaginismus Blog

Do women need to guide the penis toward their vagina when having sexual intercourse or can the penis find its own way in? Generally speaking, the penis has a built-in GPS and can find its way without guidance, aided by the V-shape of the pelvis that...

Intercourse & bleeding

06 May 2009 Posted by womentc in Menopause & Painful Sex, Painful Sex (Dyspareunia), Sexual Dysfunction, Vaginismus Blog, Women's Health

An updated version of this post dated November 11, 2020, is available here Not all bleeding/spotting after intercourse suggest a medical crisis. Common, everyday causes may include: Chafing irritation because of dryness/insufficient lubrication. You have vaginismus or dyspareunia -- your vagina is tight (nervous), causing chafing irritation. ...

Doing ‘it’ wrong?

01 May 2009 Posted by womentc in Vaginismus Blog

A repeated question by many patients: "Am I doing it wrong? I cannot have intercourse." And more questions: Is he trying to get into the wrong hole (vagina)? Maybe I do not have a hole (vagina)? Are we doing it in a wrong position? The truth is...