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Is there a ‘right way’ to clean the genitals? The vagina? Generally speaking, the female genitals include skin folds (outer and inner lips), the clitoral hood + the clitoris, and the openings to the urethra and the vagina. A lot to clean, right? Not really. The vagina itself is self cleaning (!) and you should […]

Can anything get lost in the vagina?????? Does the vagina continue into my abdomen? Chest? Throat? Interestingly, many women perceive the vagina as a long, continuous canal that starts at the genitals and continues into the body… Sort of like the digestive system, that spans from mouth to rectum (or vice versa). This perception leads […]

Is ejaculation during intercourse mandatory for defining vaginismus cure? Not at all. A cure is there when the woman owns her vagina = able to have all penetrations symptoms-free and at vaginal tempo. All penetrations refer to finger, tampons, vaginal applicator for insertion of medications, gynecologic exam (finger + speculum), and penis or penis-size dildo. […]

How can I get aroused if I cannot have a finger in my vagina? Answer: quite easily. Contrary to popular belief, a woman does not need a finger in her vagina to be sexually aroused; what she does need is clitoral stimulation! Does a finger in the vagina feel nice? Does it enhance sexual arousal? […]

Updated June 5, 2018 Is it really about how long a time it lasts, or about the level of satisfaction it brings? A male sexual template would liked intercourse to last for as long as possible, fueled by their efficient arousal mechanism that utilizes all sense; not so for the female’s sexual template, which is […]

What does religion have do to with vaginismus? Apparently, quite a bit. Religions will often specify the nature and extent of intimate contact that is allowed prior to marriage. Some religions spell out specific punishments for forbidden intimate acts. Some religions define women’s sexual roles and duties and, at times, even mandate them! Pregnancy outside […]

A husband of a former patient emailed us recently with the following question: “I still have not been able to give my wife sensual pleasure during sexual intimacy. I tried many suggestions mentioned in the books as well as what you taught us, but her body just does not feel the sensation of pleasure that […]

Men leave women with vaginismus Men will never stay married if intercourse is too painful to be happening Men must have sex How often have you heard or read these statements? Many Moms and Grandmas surely believe these are the facts of life. The media hypes quite a bit about it too: be a good […]

When scheduled for an elective (non-emergency) gynecologic exam, you may want to follow these tips: Bring a list containing date of last period, names of prescription medications you are taking, socks if you like your feet kept warm in the stirrups, and questions you want to ask. Keep the vagina off limit for about 48 […]

An updated version of this post dated December 27, 2020 is available here A question from a husband:My wife complains of searing vaginal pain upon intercourse and as a result she has been avoiding sex altogether. When I met my wife, she seemed to be so eager and interested in sex that I eventually married […]