Penis Thrusting & Thrusting Techniques

Last Updated on January 3, 2025

Thrusting during intercourse is the way the penis ‘likes it,’ similarly to the up-and-down motion along the penis during non-penetrative stimulation, i.e. oral sex, manual sex (hand job), and masturbation. For the woman, penis thrusting enhances the already-happening sexual arousal because of the rubbing against the clitoral’s ‘legs’ that are embedded within the vaginal walls.

Varying depth and speed of thrusting must be done while being attuned to the woman’s response and comfort. This attentiveness allows for adjustments, reducing the likelihood of pain, and preventing involuntary resistive contractions.

What is thrusting?

Thrusting during intercourse is the back-and-forth gliding movement of the penis in the vagina, done rhythmically as per the male’s arousal. It is the same motion along the penis when rubbing it to arousal during manual sex or oral sex or self-masturbation.

How deep can the penis thrust during intercourse?

You may be wondering whether you can deep thrust, shallow thrust, or slow thrust during penetrative sex. The answer is simple. As deep as the vaginal depth allows, as deep as the male’s desire guides him, and most importantly: as deep as it is comfortable for the woman.

Does the penis come out of the vagina during thrusting? (As in going in & coming all the way out, in & out, in & out)

A definite NO. The penis should not come out of the vagina but rather stay inside during thrusting. Otherwise, quick and ongoing in & out penetrations will activate the tightening reflex of the vaginal ring (introitus), giving her discomfort and painful intercourse (dyspareunia) or even vaginismus.

Gentlemen, please respect vaginal endurance and stay inside when you thrust. And ladies, do not suffer in silence!

Does penis size matter when thrusting?

Yes, penis size may matter IF the penis is on the thick side, beyond reasonable. Let’s explain:

Typically, the vaginal size is suitable for an average penis size, which is the common way. However, some penises can be thicker and require insertion and thrusting modifications, such as extra lubrication, a more accommodating sexual position, and a more ‘economical’ (shorter duration) intercourse to avoid vaginal and urethral chafing. And, some penises are in what we term a ‘mega’ category of thickness, a size that can rarely if ever fit inside the vagina, let alone thrust. In our thousands of cases, we have only encountered four (4) such occurrences..

How many thrusts to make a woman orgasm?

There is no formula as to the number of thrusts needed to bring a woman to climaxing (reaching orgasm).  None whatsoever.  

First, let’s be reminded that thrusting during intercourse will not be arousing to most women unless they are being stimulated by the clitoris simultaneously.  Very few women can get aroused solely by penile penetration and thrusting…  

Once she is aroused and he is thrusting inside her, the timing of her climax will depend on her state of mind, state of arousal, and her climaxing patterns, regardless of the number of his thrusts or if he lasts longer. Watch this video, Clitoral Stimulation and The Female Orgasm.

What to Know About Thrusting Techniques

Thrusting during intercourse is a natural, inherent activity of the penis.  It happens automatically, without thinking about how to do it, and is subject to his sexual arousal rhythm and style.  

However, there are technical considerations for the woman, all aimed at maintaining comfort and pleasure while avoiding provoking painful intercourse (dyspareunia) or vaginismus:

• Thrusting (and grinding) should stay inside the vagina and never ‘ride’ in & out through the vaginal entrance ring (introitus);
• Thrusting should be as deep as it it comfortable to the woman, regardless of his wants for otherwise.  Watch this video, How Deep Should The Penis Go.
• Thrusting should last for as long as she is comfortable with it – it is not about allowing him to stay inside until he is done at the expense of her suffering distress and irritation.  Watch this video, Stress and Sexual Arousal.
• Thrusting rhythm (‘enthusiasm’) should be modified to match her comfort level and to prevent painful jamming against her cervix/uterus, resulting in cramping or spotting;
• Thrusting with Peyronie’s Disease should only be allowed if completely comfortable for the woman;
• Thrusting/intercourse should always be safe and consensual, never forced nor taken for granted!