Most of our vaginismus patients never experienced intercourse before undergoing treatment so they do not have a perception of what a penis at full erection feels like upon penetration.
Some men ‘feel’ that their penis is at full erection (hard enough for penetration = functional erection) yet it may not be. A bit of a sensory confusion.
The problem? The inexperienced woman is now ready for intercourse, the man is trying to penetrate, things just don’t happen, both are frustrated and upset…
The answer: one cannot stuff a soft penis into the vagina…