To tell, or not to tell?
Should you tell him:
- That intercourse is not arousing?
- That much as he tries you still cannot reach an orgasm, or should you fake it?
- To stop doing oral sex on you because you think it has been taking you longer than he would have liked?
- The way he stimulates you is not doing a thing for you?
- That you had vaginismus and this is your first intercourse since being cured and you feel nervous about it?
- That intercourse is painful, or should you just suffer in silence?
- That your vagina needs lubrication for intercourse, otherwise it will get chafed and irritated?
- To change intercourse position for more comfort? For fun?
- I do not feel like ‘doing it’ today? Or that I’d rather have a back rub?
While men tend to be quite clear about their sexual likes and comforts, women are hesitant to speak up their minds, opting instead to suffer in silence and/or develop disinterest. The big question remains: why do so many women continue to act as sexual subservience instead of as equal partners?
Still, need answers to the above?
- Intercourse by itself is seldom arousing for women; they need clitoral stimulation to ‘get going.’ Read Vaginal Orgasm
- Never fake! Read Killing an Orgasm and seek professional help as needed.
- Men will gladly accept oral sex for as long as possible, so why don’t women accept the same?
- Everyone is responsible for their sexual arousal — if you do not tell the partner how you ‘like it’ then he/she will not know!
- Some women have no problem telling while others prefer to “go with it” as there was no history of vaginismus. A sexually experienced partner will tend to know if you are a virgin but, who cares? Just enjoy.
- Why suffer in silence???? You are the owner of the vagina and the hostess to his penis!
- See answer #6 above
- Sexual intimacy should be fun, satisfying, and pain-free; why not make sure it is???
- Yes, tell him. And, read Sex and Bartering