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Vaginal orgasm?!

Posted by womentc in Vaginismus Blog 30 Sep 2008

Can you have an orgasm during intercourse?

Fact #1: most women cannot, so consider yourself in normal, healthy company!

Fact #2: the vagina is not an erogenous structure but a passageway.  If it were capable of sexual arousal, then tampons would have been a delight as would gynecologic exams…

Fact #3: the clitoris is the female’s erogenous structure, the anatomical parallel to the male’s penis.  Clitoral stimulation – direct or indirect – is necessary for female sexual arousal.

If your partner’s penis is not aligned so as to rub your clitoris in an arousing way during intercourse, you will need to apply direct clitoral stimulation if you wish to orgasm simultaneously with him. You can use your hand, his hand, a vibrator, etc.

Remember: it is about anatomy and physiology, not about your or his sexual wants!