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Vibrator and orgasm

Posted by womentc in Painful Sex (Dyspareunia), Sexual Dysfunction, Vaginismus Blog 02 Dec 2009

The patient sat herself in the comfortable chair and said while sighing: “I do not have good orgasms!

Hmmm, what are good orgasms?

We asked her to explain, and she said: “I can orgasm from manual stimulation to clitoris but they are little orgasms.  I can also orgasm from oral sex but they are not big like the ones from a vibrator.  I want to have the same powerful orgasms from all activities as from the vibrator but I do not want to be addicted to the vibrator!”

What is wrong with loving the vibrator? Just remember that the clitoris needs lubrication, and that vaginal insertion is not a must.

Also, we reminded her, that it is normal to have small and/or big orgasms!  Not bad considering that many women cannot shut down their thinking minds enough to even get to having an orgasm…

The patient was not happy, not even when we reminded her that the mechanical energy and speed of a vibrator cannot be matched by a hand nor a tongue.

We dug deeper and found out that the issue has turned into an obsession, which is stopping her relationship from moving forward because of this unrealistic sexual expectation.

Sad, isn’t?