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What is Vaginismus?

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Vaginismus is the instantaneous, involuntary tightening of the pelvic floor muscles in anticipation of vaginal penetration. This reaction will occur if penetration is perceived as upsetting, painful (even before attempting it!), frightening or dangerous, making the body scream out loud, “NO ENTRY!” Occasionally, vaginismus will be caused by a physical problem such as a birth defect, or surgery. Either way, it is a vagina in panic

Women with vaginismus, as well as male partners, will often describe attempts to have intercourse as ‘hitting a brick wall’ or as ‘I am too small.’  With regard to gynecologic examination, women with vaginismus will tend to avoid them, or will suffer terribly through them.  Tampon use? The vaginismus sufferer will settle for sanitary pads and come up with excuses as to why they are better than tampons…

But, there is no need to suffer because there is a cure for vaginismus!  With the right treatment plan and in the hands of a knowledgeable, experienced clinician, vaginismus treatment should be simple, fast, and with permanent results.

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There are two types of vaginismus — we provide expert treatment for both:

  • Primary vaginismus is when the woman was never able to have vaginal penetrations.  For the woman, being trapped within herself with the painful symptoms of vaginismus brings about the feelings of panic and anxiety, of being “stuck with it forever”, of feeling inadequate, and “the only one who suffers from this…”  Partners suffer as well, feeling frustrated, helpless, rejected and inadequate. Inaccurate sexual information and the lack of understanding of the woman’s body will worsen the crisis, often leading to alienation; it is not unusual for some women in a relationship to suggest a breakup because they feel that they cannot “do what a woman should do.” Primary vaginismus is the main focus of this page.
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  • Secondary vaginismus is when the woman lost the ability to have vaginal penetration/s.  Causes include gynecologic surgery, Menopause, cancer treatment & radiation,  emotional or relationship crisis, frequent painful urogenital infections, and Sexually Transmitted infections.  Although these women will remember that penetrations used to be fine, they are now faced with painful/impossible vaginal penetration, making them feel just as isolated and hopeless as those with primary vaginismus.  Typically speaking, a solution is simple and takes just a few treatment sessions.  Contact us for further information, or to schedule an appointment.