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Is there a ‘right way’ to clean the genitals or vagina?

Can I use Aquaphor on my vagina, vulva, or private parts?

Generally speaking, the female genitals include skin folds (outer and inner lips), the clitoral hood + the clitoris, and the openings to the urethra and the vagina.

A lot to clean, right? Not really.

The vagina itself is self-cleaning (!), and you should leave it alone unless instructed by your healthcare provider to douche; the rest can be easily maintained following the tips below.

Women with vaginismus – do your best to try the following; if nothing else, it will be a good exercise in beginning to own your genitals!

  • Install a hand-held shower to better rinse off the area. If not possible, use a spray bottle.
  • Never use hot water on the genitals to avoid over-drying and chafing irritations. You can take your shower as hot as you wish but turn the water to warm when rinsing the genitals.
  • It is best to use a neutral or hypoallergenic soap to avoid irritations caused by fragrances and/or other chemicals in the soap. However, feel free to use any soap you like when washing the rest of your body.
  • No need to scrub the area. Apply a bit of (neutral/hypoallergenic) soap on your hand, lightly soap between the genital lips (not inside the vagina), and rinse. If using the soap makes the genitals burn, use warm water for a few days before trying again, and/or try another soap.
  • Pat dry the area when you towel off and leave it alone.
  • If your genitals feel dry, you can apply a thin coat of Aquaphor Healing Ointment to the area between the lips but not inside the vagina. Aquaphor is an over-the-counter ointment that can also be used as a lip balm, a diaper ointment, and a barrier ointment to prevent chafing irritations between toes (during running), in the genitals (bike riding), etc.
  • Cleaning after intercourse? Read our post Intercourse & cleaning.
  • Final note: it is common to find residue in the genitals: toilet paper dust/pieces, sloughed dry skin, leftover ointment/medications, etc. If left accumulated, they may cause skin irritation.  Use a mirror and look at your genitals every 2-3 months to ensure good hygiene.

Not much more is needed… Use the same approach if taking a bath.

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  • Phyllis Dube says:

    My mother in law has used nothing on her vaginal area in the shower for over 50 years, only Water, I can’t emagine how dirty she must be

    • Ditza Katz says:

      She may not be that bad as long as she rinses well… There are many women out there who use nothing but water for cleansing their genitals. And, there is definitely no need to use anything inside the vagina for it is a self-cleaning canal.

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  • Lee says:

    Sitz baths really help with particles trapped in vulva folds.

  • our website says:

    Using female shower gel and regular visits to your gynecologist are two very important steps.

  • marie says:

    Ja well your never to old to learn I’m 56 and only recently learnt that to wash with soap inside the genitals is wrong I had a very bad odour and was washing with soap often…. Have since at the suggestion of my doctor started using water only and lo and behold no odour shows you soap don’t always clean lol NOW IM HAPPY

  • tuit says:

    In many countries there are hand-held bidet showers or bidets in every toilet. That is the way… Sorry, that this still seems to be unknown facility in USA.

  • Lydia says:

    Hi am lydia,mine is a question.am having problem with ma private part it irritate and whitish fluid flows often what can i do?

    • womentc says:

      Dear Ms. Lyndia,
      This Blog is for information only. Please schedule an appointment with your doctor to evaluate your vaginal problem.

  • Madeline says:

    When & how often should I have Pap/pelvic exam. I am 19 & have had a few sex partners but never had symptoms of infection. I do use condoms also.

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  • tia says:

    thank you due to lack of communication growing up, this information was never passed on to me. Now I can help my daughter by passing this information on to her and perhaps prevent her discomfort later.

  • Aliglad says:

    Pls help. I am 12, nearly 13 and i usually have this thick, whittish substance coming outta my vagina. I think it’s a yeast infection. Is it true? Either ways, what can i do to prevent discharging this substance?

  • marisol1 says:

    I need to ask a question. its a very private question. Hopefully I can trust this site.

  • milly says:

    hi guys! where can i find the soap?

  • Belle says:

    They do !!!! I carry then with me all the time!!!!

  • LoveLolita says:

    Actually I have tried it and I really liked it. Do you know if they make wipes?

  • Belle says:

    There is actually a soap that came out recently called Fresh Control, that is specifically for Women’s genitals. It’s hypoallergenic and non scented and has the same PH as the vagina. Needles to say it’s way better than bar soap. Has anyone tried it too?

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  • Miker says:

    Is there a discussion somewhere related to this, or could you answer a few questions

    • womentc says:

      We’ll be happy to answer questions in this forum if they pertain to this blog post. Alternatively, you can email us directly (doctors@womentc.com) and we’ll reply from there.

  • eela says:

    hi im an indian wheatish colour grl & at my under legs part is 2 much blackish plz sujust me wat 2 do .

    • womentc says:

      We suggest that you ask your doctor as we cannot give medical advice without examining your in person.

  • Sandie says:

    How I stumbled upon your fabulous website almost two years after you wrote this, only Google and the cosmos will know. However, I want to thank you for answering a question that has plagued me for over 30 years. I’ve always wondered just how far I should take cleaning myself. I discovered via trial and many errors and infections later that Ivory or unscented soap was vital for the bath and the washing machine. I have very sensitive skin all over my body, so why wouldn’t it be “down there?” Of course it would. Yet I still made sure I washed – front to back always – with a sanitized washcloth (fearing hotel ones) and rinsing with the handheld shower, a great invention. When it comes down to it, what you describe is right on. Yet because of sexual abuse, I felt dirty, no matter how much I washed or didn’t wash, so it all became distorted. Thank you for writing down what proper care is. I’ve printed it out to keep whenever I need to read it again.

    Sadly I share the stories of two women who felt dirty after sex. One, believe it or not, is that of my mother-in-law. I’m not sure how many she told this to, for she was a difficult woman to her sons and their wives. None the less, she pulled me aside one day to tell me something. With a room full of people in her home, she told me of her wedding night and how unsure she was on what she was to do after intercourse. She ended up douching with Lysol. I don’t doubt her. She conceived her first son rather easily, but it took nine years to conceive the second (my hubby) with her doing, in her words, everything but standing on her head. I imagine she did some damage along the way with her strong douches.

    Another sad story, very similar, was told me by a dear friend whom I met while we were both in treatment for sexual trauma. We had the good fortune to land at a Masters and Johnson-run hospital with a great program. Yet, as with any program, you have to be ready to work it. Ann was there after a suicide attempt. She was overseas on a college foreign exchange program, in France, the land of love. Too much love, she found out. She liked the girl whose family she stayed with. Her father liked her too much and would watch her any chance he got, including while bathing. Ann was always uncomfortable but felt it must be the way the French live. One night she was upset and began to walk away from the house. The father followed, thinking it was a gesture to have him follow. He did, and he raped her. From there Ann returned to the house to douche over and over and over again with every cleaning product they had. She tried to find medical help after that. She was so terribly lost in a foreign land, wandering and trying to find help. Eventually she found some in Germany, if I recall. I can’t begin to imagine.

    How strange that I can share that yet know that I had my own horrid story. Ann’s story was silenced when she succeeded in her next suicide attempt. From 1200 miles away I tried to tell her how much she was worth, but she hadn’t found that for herself, and she just wanted the pain to stop.

    Ann helped me with a lesson that I apparently helped her with as well. We were suite-mates .. we each had our own room yet we shared the bathroom. My first night there, I gathered linens for the night and the next morning and put them on the towel bar. By morning, the girl in the next room leaving that day had swiped the linens. When Ann checked in that day to take her place, I immediately approached her and explained that I had a problem with my cleanliness in the bathroom and explained what had happened and how I would appreciate it not happening with her and what system could we come up with so we kept our clean linens separate. Ann also had a problem, and we made fast friends.

    Your blog here tonight is the first time I’ve read it spelled out with such simplicity on how to clean your body in your “private parts.” Why on earth did it take over 50 years for that to be read by me so I could confirm what I’d more or less learned on my own? Any why did I have to go through all the trials I did in order to learn that some of my problems were hygiene due to sensitive skin but many, many more of them were because of prior sexual abuse?

    Again, I say thank you for spelling it out. Now, I must go and read much more of your place. Sandie in Florida

  • womentc says:

    Frequent sexual intercourse with same/different men will not alter the vaginal diameter nor make it ‘soft.’ However, we hope that you are taking all needed precautions to avoid contacting Sexually Transmitted Diseases and to prevent unwanted pregnancy!

  • usman olaoluwa says:

    Please, what do you think will likely hapen to lady’s that frequently have sex with different guys cause i heard their vagina will continually get soft. I am only asking to have the ideal ooooooo.

  • tina says:

    Nice article. Thanks for the tips on female hygiene!

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