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How far should he go? What will he hit? Is is dangerous? Will it hurt?

These are common concerns of women as they begin to experience penetrative sex (intercourse); these questions and worries are there because the vagina is an invisible canal and the woman cannot observe what is ‘there’ nor what happens when the penis slides in and thrusts.

  1. For vaginal depth, read our other post, Vagina – endless?
  2. Should you need to guide his penis in?  Read Guiding the penis?
  3. The uterus sits at the end of the vagina, and its bottom opening – the cervix – is the part that the penis will tap during thrusting, an alignment that is natural and designed to function just so.  Read our other post, Hitting the cervix.
  4. How deep will he go? As deep as your vagina allows; as deep as is comfortable for the (receiving) woman; as deep as your and his physiques allow; as deep as the passion asks for…  Men can adjust their depth of penetration so ladies, you must speak up your preferences so the sexual event will be free of stress or pain.
  5. Read Intercourse & bleeding.

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  • Isaac says:

    So I just bought my wife 7inch /2-1/4 inch thick . So I’ve noticed that when I penetrate it deep she tends to get more wet and tends to want me to keep going deep in her Vagina. So my question is ? Do you think she is liking the deep penetration of her vagina , she likes me to go as deep as I can , and keep it there with up and down movements in her Vagina. She wants to try an 8 inch dildo , could she be liking this way of foreplay-sexual intercourse?

  • Collins says:

    Helpful

  • mia says:

    i wanna get pregnant again, but we cant hit it.. i was thinking maybe its because everytime we have sex, and done, his juices is all flowing out from my vagina. does it affect?

    • Ditza Katz says:

      It is typical to have some of the ‘fluids’ come out of the vagina after he ejaculates. Check with your doctor about your fertility.

  • Bianca Mc Guinness says:

    Can anyone help

    My husband and i have been having sex ever since we got together 6 years ago. In the last year sex has been so painful hust as he is entering me. So painful that i cant carry on. Im wet enough. Just dont understand how everything can be good then it becomes painful.

  • Daniel Dilallo says:

    Can you have sex with out putting your penis in a vagina ? Should you wear underwear while you have sex with your partner?

    • Ditza Katz says:

      Sex includes many types of activities, penetrative being only one of them. If you do not wish to get pregnant, take necessary precautions (thick underwear may be an option).

  • Mollah says:

    My wife having pain after sex in deep penetration while i have long penis.what we should do about it please.

    • Ditza Katz says:

      You need to limit the depth of your penetration. You can do that by using different sexual positions, and by minding how deep you go in/thrust, or by using a penile ring (available online) that will physically limit your penetration depth.

  • Pandi says:

    Hello, we’ve been trying to have a baby for a year. Report seems to be normal… Doctor presumes position and not having deep penetration could be the cause…we both are200 percent satisfied but still no result… While ejaculate I see most of my semen comes out….I’m not sure what should I do….

    • Ditza Katz says:

      Not going all the way in is one possible answer although women often get pregnant without full/any penetration. And if you see the semen when you ejaculate, then you definitely are not going into her. Try different positions and assess.

  • Ashiq says:

    Actually i did sex with my gf and i just inserted the head of my penis into her vagina
    And when the sperm ejected my penis was totally outsidw the vagina..now I am afraid and very much disturbed about her pregnant… sir plz tell,,is there any chance of her being pregnant.

  • S I Singh says:

    can women be sexually satisfied if her husband is 100% loving , supportive, caring , expert in foreplay but he is impotent. i am elderly man good in all fields which are important for women except that i cannot penetrate her.

    • Ditza Katz says:

      Absolutely, as long as she is okay with not having vaginal intercourse, a common situation that most women are okay with. Keep the communication open, and explore all other sexual ways that you and her can enjoy.

  • Ditza Katz says:

    Virginity is defined as having had a penis in vagina. If you had vaginal intercourse at least once, you are no longer a virgin.

  • Mike says:

    The deeper i can slide in the better i like going as deep in as i can it feels the best it always hits the end I guess the woman like or they would push back

    But the deeper that i can go the better i will feel.

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  • Priya says:

    During intercourse have more pain..and didn’t reach depth of vagaina..if pennies only entered 80% means,there is any possibilities for getting pregnant?..and how to reach cervix without pain.pls clarify my doubts..

    • Ditza Katz says:

      Yes, you can get pregnant with partial penis penetration. As to the pain situation, we cannot tell without examining you.

  • rebecca whtehead says:

    I’ve only had sex 4 times ever in my life and it’s with the same person. When I have sex and he pushes in deep it hurts. I presume the cervix tapping. After sex though it seems as tho my ovaries? Are hurting and it feels like I’m on my period. Also I read on line that I need to be readied up before having sex but he just pushed it straight in is that a problem could that cause damage internally? I just want to know because I’m new to this whole thing and when I read online I just gather more and more questions without acctually getting an answer

    • Greg says:

      Sounds like you need some foreplay. Teach the boy

    • Ditza Katz says:

      Yes, it is possible that hard tapping against the cervix during penile thrusting may result in your symptoms. Ask him to ease on it and see if that helps, as well as try intercourse in different positions, which may also help.

      As to ‘ready yourself’ before penetration: not sure where you saw it online but that is not a typical requirement, unless you are referring to adding lubrication or if there are medical issues involved.

  • Nakakakka la says:

    Thank you very useful

  • DJ Dibya (Dj) says:

    Very very little bleeding like a drop of water thats it and the penis enter sor 2 cms depth and for 1 second only is she is not virgin anymore.. tell me

    • Ditza Katz says:

      That is all in the definition: some would argue that the penis has to be fully inside while others may say ‘less than fully in’ is also accepted. But you definitely need to get in deeper than 2cm in order to pass the vaginal opening/hymen.

  • Samuel L. says:

    Is a 4.5 inch penis repulsive for wifes to handle and play with?

    • Samuel says:

      Can a 4.5 inch long penis be satisfying if a wife has a longer vaginal canal like 6-7 inches long? Because I don’t fell much friction some but not to much. And I never been abe to fill her canal up. I know I’m on the small side. I some times fell cheated by mother nature and makes me feel sad that I don’t measure up. Please help !!!

      • Ditza Katz says:

        Only your wife can answer the question (whether she is satisfied). A constructive dialogue between you is key.

        On a general note, women’s satisfaction is composed of physical and emotional components so you have plenty opportunity to make her happy.

    • Ditza Katz says:

      Are you referring to length or circumference/girth?

  • Charles says:

    Is 17 cm length and 13 cm circumference alright for a girl pleasure wise

    • Ditza Katz says:

      The length of the penis does not matter much because it can only go in as deep as the vagina allows. As to girth, 13cm circumference is average and should fit the vagina. Lastly, women can have penis penetration with and without any pleasure! The vagina is a passageway for more than just a penis, i.e. finger, gyno exam, tampons, childbirth, and pleasure is a choice, not a must, for penetration.

  • Ditza Katz says:

    An interesting question. To the best of our knowledge, there is no such process.

  • Ciara says:

    Whenever my partner is on top, I usually keeps hands on hi stomach so he doesn’t go deep. Whenever he does try to go deep, it’s painful and have to stop. I usually experience cramping feeling after. Is this normal?

    • Ditza Katz says:

      Although we cannot tell for sure without examining you, we can say that depth may affect a woman as you described. Try putting a pillow under your buttocks and/or having intercourse in different positions (= different depth of penetration) and see if that help.

  • Steven says:

    can a 5 inch penis be satisfying to women?

    • Waqas Ahmed says:

      No A 5 inch penis is never satisfying to your partner.
      I know this to be true because I have a 5 inch myself and I slept with all race of woman.
      And they never wanted me because I was not at least 7 inches like their ex’s…

    • Ditza Katz says:

      Women’s satisfaction is not just about penis size, but also about her emotional satisfaction with the partner, the relationship, and sexual choices. We recommend you have an honest conversation with your female partner during which you will ask us this very question.

  • Shane Colunga says:

    When your wife preferred your manhood is 3 inches shorter and complains the head is tooo big, is hers small or is mine truly too big, tried the pillow in the small of the back, complaints originate during missionary position.

    • Ditza Katz says:

      The answer is not simple as it depends on different factors. Email us at doctors@womentc.com for further discussion.

      • any says:

        If i ejaculates inside my partener mouth. can it be dangerous for her health?

        • Ditza Katz says:

          Typically, it is fine unless there are health issues involved (infection, sexually transmitted disease, etc.).

          • Larry says:

            Please I want to know why legally married women engage in other affairs outside marriage. Is it proper for a woman is married with two lovely children to still communicate with her ex. Is it okay for her to get too familiar with another man so much that they communicate on phone on a daily basis and claimed there there was nothing btw them when asked. Please I need your honest reply. Thank you and God bless you immensely.

          • Ditza Katz says:

            You may want to speak with your doctor or with a psychotherapist about these concerns.